{"id":23297,"date":"2024-03-07T19:55:11","date_gmt":"2024-03-08T00:55:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newssprinters.com\/index.php\/world\/ive-not-seen-my-husband-for-two-years-but-i-know-hes-alive\/07\/03\/2024\/"},"modified":"2024-03-07T19:55:11","modified_gmt":"2024-03-08T00:55:11","slug":"ive-not-seen-my-husband-for-two-years-but-i-know-hes-alive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newssprinters.com\/index.php\/world\/ive-not-seen-my-husband-for-two-years-but-i-know-hes-alive\/07\/03\/2024\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;I&#8217;ve not seen my husband for two years but I know he&#8217;s alive&#8217;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><strong>Oksana sits in her Aberdeen flat, thinking about her husband. She has not spoken to him for almost two years now. She is wearing a wristband in the colours of Ukraine, and a wedding ring which shines on her finger.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Her husband Alexei &#8211; not his real name &#8211; was captured by the Russians while fighting for the Ukrainian army in Mariupol in April 2022.<\/p>\n<p>Almost two years later, Oksana, who works as a housekeeper in the Aberdeen area, is pleading for the release of her partner.<\/p>\n<p>The 28-year-old, who has lived in Scotland for the last 18 months after fleeing the war, believes he is in a Russian prison.<\/p>\n<p>The BBC is choosing not to name her husband and has blurred his face in photographs.<\/p>\n<p>Oksana fights back tears. \u201cHe is a very kind, caring person. He is always there for me. He always makes me smile.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Oksana has not heard from Alexei since she received a letter from jail in September 2022. Having spoken with other released prisoners since and by searching social media like Telegram channels, she thinks he was still in prison in January this year.<\/p>\n<p>She reflects: \u201cHe will come back to me, and we will have a beautiful future together. The two of us, and our cat. I don\u2019t know about kids now.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2>A life together<\/h2>\n<p>Oksana met Alexei when they were both teenagers and studying in the same college in southern Ukraine.<\/p>\n<p>After a year of being close friends, romance bloomed. They enjoyed cycling and running together. He liked playing games such as Call of Duty on his Playstation.<\/p>\n<p>Oksana says he was always a patriotic Ukrainian, and in 2015 he signed up for the armed forces as soon as he turned 18.<\/p>\n<p>He served in Donetsk, where Russian-backed forces had taken control years before. When the Russians launched their full-scale invasion two years ago, everything changed.<\/p>\n<h2>Outbreak of war<\/h2>\n<p>On the morning of 24 February 2022, Oksana woke up to a call from her friend. \u201cShe told me the war had started.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Alexei packed up his things and was ordered to go to Mariupol. How did he feel?<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe was excited about it,\u201d said Oksana. \u201cI think he was playing Call of Duty too much! He was excited about defending Ukraine.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Before he left, he drove Oksana to another part of the country to be with her family.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe saw the Russian planes and snipers. Everything was on fire.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Once her husband left, Oksana sheltered as best as she could. \u201cI heard explosions. The whole house was shaking. We were hiding in the basement, but we could still hear the explosions, the planes, and shooting.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>After a few weeks, the Russians occupied their area. There was no electricity, but she eventually managed to speak to her husband on the phone to let him know she was OK. But it was not safe.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey (the Russians) were checking cars, they were checking people. They went to houses to find some signs that we were sending messages to Ukrainian soldiers about their location.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey took some people. I don\u2019t know what happened to them next. It was scary to go out of the house. I only went out once a week to church.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2>The Siege of Mariupol<\/h2>\n<p>Alexei, meanwhile, was in the middle of some of the fiercest fighting of the war.<\/p>\n<p>He was in Mariupol, a key strategic target for Russian forces in the early days of the invasion, as it links Crimea and the Donbas. The brutal battle lasted more than 80 days, before Russia eventually seized control.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe told me everything was really bad, and we don\u2019t have a way out of the city.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In one call, Alexei revealed the Russians had bombed his unit. Several soldiers who he had served with for years were killed. He was left with shrapnel in his head and his hand.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe was devastated,\u201d said Oksana. \u201cI was crying all the time, but I was trying not to show him that I\u2019m so scared because he was in a worse situation than I was.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>He called her a few weeks before he was captured to say there was \u201cno chance to survive\u201d, with weapons, ammunition, food and water all depleted. \u201cHe asked me to care for his family, and to take care of myself.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Then, on 12 April 2022 Alexei called to say he was alive but had been taken prisoner. He asked her to get back to Ukrainian territory, and she later moved to a friend\u2019s home in the west of Ukraine.<\/p>\n<h2>The road to Aberdeen and search for her husband<\/h2>\n<figure class=\"caas-figure\">\n<div class=\"caas-figure-with-pb\" style=\"max-height: 540px\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"caas-img-container caas-img-lightbox caas-img-loader\" style=\"padding-bottom:56%\" data-lightbox-src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/Y5aJwcWwn7VEOnKkcScn5g--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTI0MDA7aD0xMzUw\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/afcd4fc13ac2cb42ab86e3479ca13935\"><span class=\"caas-img-wrapper\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Oksana\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/0c5WcFtXFTf3PNshyWgDXg--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTU0MA--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/afcd4fc13ac2cb42ab86e3479ca13935\" class=\"caas-img\"\/><button class=\"link caas-lightbox\" aria-label=\"View larger image\" data-ylk=\"sec:image-lightbox;slk:lightbox-open;elm:expand;itc:1\"><span class=\"openArrows icon\"><svg width=\"22\" height=\"22\" viewbox=\"0 0 22 22\"><path d=\"M12.372 0.92C12.372 0.414 12.782 0.004 13.287 0.004L21 0L20.996 7.712C20.996 8.217 20.586 8.628 20.08 8.628C19.574 8.628 19.164 8.217 19.164 7.712V3.183L12.337 10.011L10.988 8.663L17.816 1.835H13.287C12.782 1.835 12.372 1.425 12.372 0.92ZM1.835 17.816L8.663 10.988L10.012 12.337L3.183 19.164H7.712C8.218 19.164 8.627 19.574 8.627 20.08C8.627 20.586 8.218 20.995 7.712 20.995L0 21L0.004 13.287C0.004 12.782 0.414 12.372 0.92 12.372C1.425 12.372 1.835 12.782 1.835 13.287V17.816Z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"caption-collapse\">Oksana is living in Aberdeen, but wants to return to Ukraine one day with her husband.<\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<p>While there, Oksana read about the opportunity to escape the war and move to the UK.<\/p>\n<p>After applying via a Scottish government refugee programme, she arrived shortly afterwards on her own in August 2022, with her family and friends all still back in Ukraine.<\/p>\n<p>A month later, she received a letter from her husband from a Russian prison. \u201cIt said he was alive, he was OK, he was being treated well, and that he loved me, but it looked like they had dictated what to write. There were no feelings in it.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It is the last time she has heard from him.<\/p>\n<p>Since his capture, Oksana says she has been in touch with the International Committee of the Red Cross, the United Nations and the Ukrainian government \u2013 but to no avail.<\/p>\n<h2>&#8216;It is up to Russia&#8217;<\/h2>\n<p>In July last year, she had heard from another prisoner who had been with her husband. He said Alexei had lost weight, and was losing hope.<\/p>\n<p>Then, a second prisoner who had been with Alexei was also released. She says he revealed Oksana\u2019s husband was still in in Russian prison on 3 January this year.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cNobody can help,\u201d says Oksana, fighting back tears. \u201cIt is only up to Russia.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Since arriving in Scotland, she has lived in a hotel in Dyce, student accommodation, and is now in her council flat in Aberdeen.<\/p>\n<p>She spends her days working as a housekeeper in a hotel in the local area, longing for a return to Ukraine with her husband. She remains in touch with a community of other Ukrainians who have also fled the war and ended up in Scotland.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe first thing after my husband called me and said he was in captivity, it was like \u2013 \u2018that\u2019s better\u2019. He will be alive, and he will be fine, but it is already two years.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI know many cases where people never come back from captivity. They were tortured or killed.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI love this country. 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