{"id":30924,"date":"2024-06-07T21:26:04","date_gmt":"2024-06-08T01:26:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newssprinters.com\/index.php\/world\/i-married-the-love-of-my-life-in-a-ukrainian-bunker-two-days-later-he-was-killed\/07\/06\/2024\/"},"modified":"2024-06-07T21:26:04","modified_gmt":"2024-06-08T01:26:04","slug":"i-married-the-love-of-my-life-in-a-ukrainian-bunker-two-days-later-he-was-killed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/newssprinters.com\/index.php\/world\/i-married-the-love-of-my-life-in-a-ukrainian-bunker-two-days-later-he-was-killed\/07\/06\/2024\/","title":{"rendered":"I married the love of my life in a Ukrainian bunker. Two days later he was killed"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p><strong>Mariupol was doomed. Relentless Russian bombing had turned streets into ruins and courtyards into graveyards.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But several metres underground in the south-eastern Ukrainian city, a romance was blooming.<\/p>\n<p>Valeria Subotina, 33, had been sheltering in the enormous Azovstal steelworks, the final stronghold in the city, as it was surrounded by Russian forces in spring 2022.<\/p>\n<p>She had taken cover in one of dozens of Soviet-era bomb shelters built to withstand nuclear war, deep beneath the industrial plant.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cYou go down a semi-collapsed staircase, move through passages and tunnels, and go further and further down. Finally, you reach this concrete cube, a room,\u201d Valeria says.<\/p>\n<p>In the bunker &#8211; alongside soldiers and civilians &#8211; Valeria was working with the army&#8217;s Azov brigade as a press officer, communicating the horrors of Russia&#8217;s months-long siege to global media.<\/p>\n<p>There, too, was her fianc\u00e9 Andriy Subotin, a 34-year-old Ukrainian army officer, defending the plant.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"caas-figure\">\n<div class=\"caas-figure-with-pb\" style=\"max-height: 521px\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"caas-img-container caas-img-lightbox caas-img-loader\" style=\"padding-bottom:65%\" data-lightbox-src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/5Viy_IR6EOJweDvtIJJlgg--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTE2MDA7aD0xMDQy\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/dbfd4012c0cbedb058e33cd3da102369\"><span class=\"caas-img-wrapper\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Interior of a dark bunker in Mariupol\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/MjqIZCdR.EAMjGPJ3aCyCw--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTYyNQ--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/dbfd4012c0cbedb058e33cd3da102369\" class=\"caas-img\"\/><button class=\"link caas-lightbox\" aria-label=\"View larger image\" data-ylk=\"sec:image-lightbox;slk:lightbox-open;elm:expand;itc:1\"><span class=\"openArrows icon\"><svg width=\"22\" height=\"22\" viewbox=\"0 0 22 22\"><path d=\"M12.372 0.92C12.372 0.414 12.782 0.004 13.287 0.004L21 0L20.996 7.712C20.996 8.217 20.586 8.628 20.08 8.628C19.574 8.628 19.164 8.217 19.164 7.712V3.183L12.337 10.011L10.988 8.663L17.816 1.835H13.287C12.782 1.835 12.372 1.425 12.372 0.92ZM1.835 17.816L8.663 10.988L10.012 12.337L3.183 19.164H7.712C8.218 19.164 8.627 19.574 8.627 20.08C8.627 20.586 8.218 20.995 7.712 20.995L0 21L0.004 13.287C0.004 12.782 0.414 12.372 0.92 12.372C1.425 12.372 1.835 12.782 1.835 13.287V17.816Z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"caption-collapse\">There are over 30 Soviet-era bunkers deep beneath the Azovstal steel plant [Dmytro Kozatsky]<\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<p>The pair had found each other through work &#8211; Mariupol\u2019s Border Guard Agency &#8211; around three years before the siege.<\/p>\n<p>When Andriy met Valeria, it was love at first sight.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;He was special, it felt so warm to be around him,&#8221; Valeria says. &#8220;He was always kind and never refused to help anyone.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Andriy was an optimist, she says. He knew how to be happy and found joy in small things: sunny weather, smiles, friends&#8217; company.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOn the first day we met, I realised Andriy was very different to others.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Within three months, they had moved in together, renting a small one-storey house in Mariupol with a garden. The couple started building a life together.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe travelled a lot, went to the mountains, met friends,\u201d Valeria says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe fished together and spent lots of time outdoors. We visited theatres, concerts and exhibitions. Life was full.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>They decided to get married and dreamed of a big church wedding with family and friends. They picked wedding rings.<\/p>\n<p>Valeria quit her job and began to nurture her creative side, writing and publishing poems about the earlier years of fierce fighting with Russia in Mariupol.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;For a couple of years before the full-scale invasion, I was truly happy,&#8221; she recalls.<\/p>\n<p>Everything changed in February 2022.<\/p>\n<p>Spring had brought the sun to Valeria and Andriy\u2019s garden, and the first flowers were appearing.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I was starting to enjoy spring,\u201d says Valeria. \u201cWe knew about Putin&#8217;s threats and realised there would be a war, but I didn&#8217;t want to think about it.\u201c<\/p>\n<p>A few days before 24 February, the day the full-scale invasion began, Andriy urged Valeria to leave the city. She refused.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I knew that no matter what happened, I had to be in Mariupol, I had to defend my city.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Weeks later, they were both underground, in the Azovstal bunkers.<\/p>\n<p>They only got to see each other occasionally, but when they did those were moments of \u201cpure happiness\u201d.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"caas-figure\">\n<div class=\"caas-figure-with-pb\" style=\"max-height: 534px\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"caas-img-container caas-img-lightbox caas-img-loader\" style=\"padding-bottom:67%\" data-lightbox-src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/k2k8MdmERrJfQbDRUsa9cw--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTE2MDA7aD0xMDY4\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/8faa0dd942abfebdf2edf77543e92d55\"><span class=\"caas-img-wrapper\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"caas-img caas-lazy has-preview\" alt=\"Portrait picture of Valeria Subotina\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/H0YAXwxN0sqpKduv5ZATyQ--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTY0MQ--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/8faa0dd942abfebdf2edf77543e92d55\"\/><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Portrait picture of Valeria Subotina\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/H0YAXwxN0sqpKduv5ZATyQ--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTY0MQ--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/8faa0dd942abfebdf2edf77543e92d55\" class=\"caas-img\"\/><button class=\"link caas-lightbox\" aria-label=\"View larger image\" data-ylk=\"sec:image-lightbox;slk:lightbox-open;elm:expand;itc:1\"><span class=\"openArrows icon\"><svg width=\"22\" height=\"22\" viewbox=\"0 0 22 22\"><path d=\"M12.372 0.92C12.372 0.414 12.782 0.004 13.287 0.004L21 0L20.996 7.712C20.996 8.217 20.586 8.628 20.08 8.628C19.574 8.628 19.164 8.217 19.164 7.712V3.183L12.337 10.011L10.988 8.663L17.816 1.835H13.287C12.782 1.835 12.372 1.425 12.372 0.92ZM1.835 17.816L8.663 10.988L10.012 12.337L3.183 19.164H7.712C8.218 19.164 8.627 19.574 8.627 20.08C8.627 20.586 8.218 20.995 7.712 20.995L0 21L0.004 13.287C0.004 12.782 0.414 12.372 0.92 12.372C1.425 12.372 1.835 12.782 1.835 13.287V17.816Z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"caption-collapse\">[Valeria Subotina]<\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<p>At this point, Mariupol was nearing a humanitarian catastrophe.<\/p>\n<p>Strikes to infrastructure had cut water and power supplies to parts of the city, and there were food shortages. Civilian homes and buildings, too, had been destroyed.<\/p>\n<p>On 15 April, a large bomb was dropped on the plant. Valeria narrowly escaped death.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI was found among dead bodies, the only one alive. On the one hand, a miracle, but on the other, a terrible tragedy.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She had to spend eight days in an underground hospital in the plant with severe concussion.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe smell of blood and rot was everywhere,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt was a very scary place where our wounded comrades, with amputated limbs, were lying everywhere. They couldn&#8217;t get proper help because there were very few medical supplies.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Andriy was deeply worried for Valeria after her injury and started planning a wedding right there, in the bunker.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It felt like he was in a hurry, like we wouldn&#8217;t have any more time,&#8221; says Valeria.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe made a couple of wedding rings out of tin foil with his own hands, and asked me to marry him. Of course, I said yes.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHe was the love of my life. And our rings made of tin foil &#8211; they were perfect.\u201d<\/p>\n<figure class=\"caas-figure\">\n<div class=\"caas-figure-with-pb\" style=\"max-height: 800px\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"caas-img-container caas-img-lightbox caas-img-loader portrait\" style=\"padding-bottom:100%\" data-lightbox-src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/5BwV.3LGZiHBx2vKc9KULA--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTE2MDA7aD0xNjAw\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/67551fa6b43c3d74541bb1bf9bfca92c\"><span class=\"caas-img-wrapper\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"caas-img caas-lazy has-preview\" alt=\"Close of Andriy and Valeria's hands with tin-foil rings\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/ebkVxu_1MZHRFJo2QFCjyQ--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTk2MA--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/67551fa6b43c3d74541bb1bf9bfca92c\"\/><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Close of Andriy and Valeria's hands with tin-foil rings\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/ebkVxu_1MZHRFJo2QFCjyQ--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTk2MA--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/67551fa6b43c3d74541bb1bf9bfca92c\" class=\"caas-img\"\/><button class=\"link caas-lightbox\" aria-label=\"View larger image\" data-ylk=\"sec:image-lightbox;slk:lightbox-open;elm:expand;itc:1\"><span class=\"openArrows icon\"><svg width=\"22\" height=\"22\" viewbox=\"0 0 22 22\"><path d=\"M12.372 0.92C12.372 0.414 12.782 0.004 13.287 0.004L21 0L20.996 7.712C20.996 8.217 20.586 8.628 20.08 8.628C19.574 8.628 19.164 8.217 19.164 7.712V3.183L12.337 10.011L10.988 8.663L17.816 1.835H13.287C12.782 1.835 12.372 1.425 12.372 0.92ZM1.835 17.816L8.663 10.988L10.012 12.337L3.183 19.164H7.712C8.218 19.164 8.627 19.574 8.627 20.08C8.627 20.586 8.218 20.995 7.712 20.995L0 21L0.004 13.287C0.004 12.782 0.414 12.372 0.92 12.372C1.425 12.372 1.835 12.782 1.835 13.287V17.816Z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/button><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"caption-collapse\">Andriy and Valeria married in a makeshift underground ceremony in the bunker, with tin-foil rings [Valeria Subotina]<\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<p>On 5 May, the couple were married by a commander stationed at the plant. They had a ceremony in the bunker, wearing their uniforms as wedding attire.<\/p>\n<p>Andriy promised his wife that they would have a proper wedding when they returned home, with real rings and a white dress.<\/p>\n<p>Two days later, on 7 May, he was killed in action at the steel plant, by Russian shelling.<\/p>\n<p>Valeria didn\u2019t find out about it straight away.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cPeople often say you feel something inside when a loved one dies. But I, on the contrary, was in a good mood. I was married and in love.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>One of the hardest things was having to hold in a \u201clump of grief\u201d, as she was defending her city alongside \u201cher boys\u201d &#8211; comrades &#8211; at Azovstal.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI was a bride, I was a wife, and now I am a widow. The scariest word,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI could not react the way I wanted to at that moment.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy boys were always around. They sat next to me, they slept next to me, they brought me food and supported me,\u201d she says. \u201cI could only cry when they weren\u2019t watching.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>At one point, it felt like the fear of being in the war zone was blunted by her grief.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI didn\u2019t care any more\u2026 You just understand that there are many more people waiting for you in the next world, if it exists, than there are here with you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The Ukrainian soldiers at Azovstal finally surrendered on 20 May. Valeria found herself among the 900 prisoners of war forcibly taken by the Russian military out of Mariupol.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe stared through the windows of the bus at those buildings we loved, at those streets we knew so well. They destroyed and killed everything I loved \u2013 my city, my friends, and my husband.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Valeria survived 11 months of Russian captivity, and has told of torture and abuse. Andriy often appeared in her dreams.<\/p>\n<p>In April last year, she was released as part of a prisoner exchange, and is now back in Ukraine.<\/p>\n<p>It is difficult to to say how many people were killed as a result of the Russian shelling of Mariupol, but local authorities say the number exceeds 20,000.<\/p>\n<p>According to the UN, 90% of residential buildings were damaged or destroyed, and bodies are still in the rubble.<\/p>\n<p>As far as Valeria knows, her husband&#8217;s body remains at the Azovstal steel plant in the now-occupied city.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, she says, she looks to the sky and speaks to him.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"caas-figure\">\n<div class=\"caas-figure-with-pb\" style=\"max-height: 639px\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"caas-img-container caas-img-loader portrait\" style=\"padding-bottom:100%\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"caas-img caas-lazy has-preview\" alt=\"Andriy and Valeria in military uniform\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/m7_caPrBcjJIvG3.RwcnSg--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTk2MA--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/c967b2c5cce8f08e9181ada3a9bc4729\"\/><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Andriy and Valeria in military uniform\" src=\"https:\/\/s.yimg.com\/ny\/api\/res\/1.2\/m7_caPrBcjJIvG3.RwcnSg--\/YXBwaWQ9aGlnaGxhbmRlcjt3PTk2MDtoPTk2MA--\/https:\/\/media.zenfs.com\/en\/bbc_us_articles_995\/c967b2c5cce8f08e9181ada3a9bc4729\" class=\"caas-img\"\/><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"caption-collapse\">[Dmytro Kozatsky]<\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<p><img alt=\"\" height=\"1\" width=\"1\" style=\"display:block\" class=\"lazyload\" data-sizes=\"auto\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=75&resize=75 75w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=100&resize=100 100w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=150&resize=150 150w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=240&resize=240 240w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=320&resize=320 320w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=500&resize=500 500w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=640&resize=640 640w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=800&resize=800 800w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=1024&resize=1024 1024w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=1280&resize=1280 1280w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/?w=1600&resize=1600 1600w\" data-src=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/a1.api.bbc.co.uk\/hit.xiti\/\"\/><\/div>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.yahoo.com\/news\/married-love-life-ukrainian-bunker-000551790.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener nofollow\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mariupol was doomed. 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